It Takes What It Takes
Change doesn't take place over night.
I had an amazing coaching call with a remote client of mine yesterday. We’ve been working together for 20 months and her growth has been spectacular.
Something she said stuck with me and I think it’s important for you to hear as well.
“It took me 6 months of working with you before I could even begin to work on the things I needed to change.”
She said she felt like she was in a ditch and was merely surviving. Her default mode was very reactive. Her commitments dating out 6 months had already stretched her thin.
Fast forward to now, and she feels in control. She is living proactively and is clear about what she wants to achieve. She creates specific plans and executes.
When I think back to the early coaching conversations we shared, much of it was centered around slowing down and taking a step back. Gaining distance and therefore perspective on what she wanted.
It wasn’t until then that she could start to formulate her own plan of how to get what she wanted.
Like so many people, we get stuck on the hamster wheel. Head down, feet churning. Work, deadlines, family, chores, bills… stress galore. You have big goals but no time to pursue them (or so you think).
Here’s how you do it…
First, recognize that major change takes time.
Second, get clear on what it is you want and who you want to become. This most often requires gaining distance, slowing down, and seeking new perspective.
Third, formulate a plan to get there. Starting with one habit, action, or behavior that is going to move you closer.
Fourth, execute.
Big changes can be hard. Taking a new job, transforming your body by losing 50lb, rebuilding relationships with those around you all take massive work. Often, it helps to have someone assist you in that pursuit.
This is where a professional Coach can be so beneficial. Having someone to share your goals, your struggles, your ideas, your setbacks, and your successes with is extremely helpful. A coach can be the difference between achieving something in 6 months or 6 years… or never.
For 2023 I’m taking on 2 new Life Coach and Mentor clients. If your’e navigating a big change in life and want to come out the other side as successful as possible, then reach out to me and let’s connect. I know how crummy it feels to spin your wheels and feel like you’re making no progress. Give me a call and let’s take the first step toward clarity and action together.
-Coach Caleb
(To set up free call, email me at calebnwhitfield@gmail.com or message me on instagram at @officialcoachcaleb)